"But in order to find your purpose and passion, you need to find what your core values are, what your dreams and aspirations are. In order to be successful on your journey to finding your passion and purpose, you need to be mindful, open, and honest with yourself."
Hi, I am a 25 years old International Ball Hockey Player,
A Certified Life Coach,
and proud owner of 'Try A Loving Conversation' mental health platform.
Those listed above are my purpose and passions in life. However, it took some time to get there.
But unfortunately, that didn’t happen as Brock made me lose the passion for playing ice hockey due to bullying, hazing, and harassment. I felt so lost. Hockey was my life!
I struggled to find myself, I struggled to find my purpose. My mindset changed, I had to learn to exercise to stay healthy not to train. I noticed I had a lot more free time on my hands. I was able to be more social.
I was 21 when I started to party and to drink as I was not playing a high elite level sport anymore. Unfortunately, that was when I became a victim of rape.
Unfortunately, when I was 21 I became a victim of rape.
It took a toll on my mental health. I developed anxiety, depression, body image issues, PTSD triggers, struggling to eat, and was suicidal. I kept it a secret for 3 months before telling anyone.
I started to see a therapist to talk about what happened a year after. I was in a very dark place. I knew that if I didn’t have a growth mindset, and maintain my self-care routine I would struggle to have my power and to have my life back!
I struggled to forgive myself and to forgive my rapist. I strongly believed that this terrible act didn’t define me as a person.
Now more recently, a few months ago in January 2020. I lost my dear friend Pierce of 15 years who committed suicide.
I was struggling with my rape incident and I knew that if I didn’t change my mindset, and truly take care of myself; eating nutritiously, proper sleep, exercising, and having a social life, I would be headed down the same path as him.
I knew that I had an amazing life to live! I did not want my rapist to win!
Pierce's passing allowed me to get the strength and courage to report my rape, and to have my life back!
It was not an easy road but I’m now a victor of rape!
I wouldn’t have done it without the unconditional love and support from my close friends and family. So for that, I’m forever grateful!
From my life experience, I put my pain to purpose by becoming a life coach and started @tryalovingconversation mental health platform. I want to help other victims of rape and sexual assault. I want to let them know that they aren’t alone and that they can get through it!
I quickly learned that it’s all about mindset, surrounding yourself with people who share the same core values as you, and want nothing but the best for you.
I also learned to use the 3:1 ratio when it comes to any negative situation. There are three positives for every negative. We are constantly learning and growing until the day we die.
I knew and now firmly believe that my purpose in life is to help people. Whether that is coaching ball hockey, teaching swimming, or giving those a sense of hope and belonging if they are struggling with mental health.
It is important for you to understand that your purpose and passion can change throughout your life.
Don’t limit yourself to just one, it is okay to have more than one passion.
But in order to find your purpose and passion, you need to find what your core values are, what your dreams and aspirations are. In order to be successful on your journey to finding your passion and purpose, you need to be mindful, open, and honest with yourself.
Ask yourself what you want and don’t want in your life, and the type of people you want to surround yourself with.
You have the power to choose which path you want to take.
You are in the driver seat driving that bus, no one else! It is your life! Have fun. Smile. Lead and leave with kindness. And hang on because it is going to be an amazing ride!
My name is Ioana 😊.
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